Nothing makes me happier than to teach someone to “fish”. Being able to change your beliefs goes a long way towards changing many things in your life.
But many people struggle to change their beliefs because they need to spend the time understanding how they communicate with themselves. I know this sounds somewhat esoteric but I’ll explain.
The key to understanding how you communicate with yourself is to notice what other people do when they are talking. Where do they look when you ask them a question for example?
The diagram below will help you understand how they are representing their thoughts and beliefs internally.
Up and to the left is usually a remembered visual – in other word they are searching through their memories for a picture. This is also true for the person who does the stare into the distance.
Up and to the right is also visual but this time they are constructing images in their mind.
Try the following questions: What did your childhood home look like? What does your dream home look like?
The auditory person will generally look level to the left and will be recalling, and level to the right they are making something up. Think of little children making up excuses!
The other two are down left – kinesthetic (feeling/tactile/body) and down right means they are talking internally to themselves.
Now these eye accessing cues are true for most people but NOT everyone so whilst they are not UNIVERSALLY true they are commonly true. Begin to watch what other people do and then begin to notice what you do.
This will begin to illuminate how you communicate within yourself. I think you will find it interesting. This is step one in changing your beliefs – which is understanding how you communicate with yourself.
We’ll continue with step two in the next sequence of this series.
NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) holds the key to personal change. When we think differently, we get different results.
I invite you to explore this field of personal change and one of the best introductory books you could read is “Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Changes with Neuro-Linguistic Programming” by Richard Bandler. You can pick it up at Amazon.
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